Adoptive parents-in-waiting need to prepare

As my husband and I waited on the tiny airstrip for our adoptedson to arrive, he was clearly nervous.

"I know I'll love this baby," he told me, "but don't expect itto happen right away. I'll need some time to bond."

"Of course," I responded.

A few minutes later, a tiny bundle was carried across the runwayand placed in my arms. Our son was beautiful, perfect - and I feltnothing. Absolutely nothing.

My husband whisked Michael from my arms, tears streaming downhis cheeks.

"My little boy!" he cried. "I love you so much!"

So much for needing time to bond.

My only recognizable emotion was panic. I had spent the lastthree years …